Archive | December 2011

That darn elf!

No I am not talking about the big fat one who my children are waiting for at the end of the week.  He is not so hard, I bake him some cookies, put out a little egg nogg, or milk, maybe some shots if he has been really good this year, and let him take all my glory.  I along with Moms everywhere really don’t mind that a guy in a big red suit who plays with elves gets all the credit every year.  Its all good.  However his little helper, he is a royal pain the . . .

I had mixed feelings about Santa for a long time.  As a child I loved the magic of him.  When directly asked my mother never answered if he was real.  She told me “he is the spirit of loving and giving” I drew my own conclusions.  I have no idea how old I was.  But old enough to be ok with it, its not like someone ruined it for me, I just kind of knew and liked that she was willing to let me draw my own conclusions.  I have never directly hyped Santa.  In fact I rearly if ever talk about him.  I don’t have to.  My parents, my husbands parents, our siblings, mass media, strangers on the street, they all take care of it for me.  We could make it an entire season with out me even saying his name.  My children occasonaly ask questions.  I answer.  We talk about Jesus and what Christmas is all about, why we give presents and things like this.  My one mistake was falling for that stupid little elf on the shelf.  TD named him “N” and at least once a week “N” forgets to move in the night and I either have to get up at 3am and come do it, try to remember while I drink my coffee before getting the kids up or explain to them why he did not move.  This year at just turned 4 and getting ready to turn 6 my kiddo’s are happy with “Guess he really liked that spot!”  but I do worry about what I will need to come up with in the years to come.

There are lots of blogs out there by slightly high strung, over achieving moms out there.  And some of them this year (or maybe years past) have come up with some really intresting things to do with these elves.  I on the other hand am left scratching my head.  I don’t want my elf to be naughty, so that eliminates about half of the ideas out there.  If the elf is naughty how is that incentive for my children to behave well?  The whole point to this elf is to inspire a new found desire to be GOOD!  I am pretty sure that a naughty elf does not equal good kids.

This whole Santa and the Elves thing is not all bad.  I get the point behind it.  But as the person who shops for 90% of the gifts here and wraps 99% of them (the jewelry store usually wraps for my husband) I some times want to wring the necks of Santa an his Elves.  And the Elf on the Shelf is not a bad guy (or girl this year, if you bought the skirt at Target!) but he has swept the nation in a fit of creating “better” memories for our children.  And while I get that, it was marketing genius, some days I just want to say “you make more work for me!”  Because, lets face it, he does.

It can be hard to balance

I am having trouble with balance this week.  TD is struggling with behavior in school.  He was wonderful in September and had a hard time in October.  He went on a behavior chart and did really well in November.  But he had two rough days this week.  Currently his consequence is to loose his advent activity for the day when that happens.  The problem is BK then suffers for his behavior.  I may have to figure out a way to balance this so its fair.  But then I think to myself, is life ever really fair?  Half the time I have no clue who started the fights any more and either they both get a time out or I send them to work it out for themselves.  I have settled on the working it out for themselves a lot more lately.  It started out of frustration, but I think in the long run they are making more progress having to figure it out between them.  I wouldn’t say they fight less, but the fights change.  Instead of coming to me 5 times a day with the same fight over and over they usually come to me 2 or 3 times and its different issues.  When possible I offer suggestions and try to help them work it out.  But ultimately I have decided that they need to work together as a team and figure out how to play together.  I keep hoping these skills will carry over into the school day as well.

BK seems to have a little girl in her class she does not get along with.  I asked the teacher about the little girl and she told me the two of them do fight alot but she sees it as they are both strong personalities and they don’t always effectively communicate.  I hope that is all it is.  BK has a dress I bought her a Children’s Place that she won’t wear to school because of this little girl.  She won’t wear any clothing that is the same as R’s.  I guess I can understand that.  If you have somone you don’t get along with why would you want to dress like them!  But it still makes me sad because I know BK loves the dress.  She is wearing it today with her “sparkle shoes”  pink sparkly shoes Nonna bought her this fall.  She loves those shoes so much that she wants a black pair as well.  She is not the most girly girl every, but she does love sparkles!

Today’s advent activity is going to involve making gifts for people.  I can’t spill the beans to much since Nonna reads the blog.  But i think the kids will be very happy with our activity and I am hoping to make teacher gifts as well as let them choose something to make for grandparents.  We have other opportunity’s for grandparent gifts, today’s activity is mainly geared to making teacher gifts.  But you never know, something from today may just be perfect for a grandparent as well 🙂